Somatic Sexology & Coaching Online Worldwide
Find your path back to presence, pleasure, and connection.
BA in Psychology • Registered SSEAA Member • IICT Approved Somatic Sex Coach
Ignite your Intimacy
Sex shouldn’t feel like another task on your to-do list, a performance to get right, or a routine you're just going through on autopilot. Whether you are navigating individual life shifts, exploring your eroticism solo, or trying to bridge a gap with a partner, it is incredibly easy for stress and anxiety to take over the bedroom.
If intimacy has started to feel routine, or if performance anxiety and mismatched libido have left you feeling disconnected, you are not broken. Somatic sex coaching is a safe, collaborative space designed to dismantle that pressure and help you find your path back to the four core elements:
Consent
Presence
Worrying about performance or overthinking pulls you out of the experience. I teach you to become more embodied by noticing physical sensations and feelings as they happen. Shifting your focus back to the body allows you to stop spectating and start enjoying the present moment.
Ongoing and enthusiastic consent allows everyone involved to feel completely safe. This safety allows pleasure to begin. In our sessions, you will learn to recognise what your body is telling you in the moment, and how to communicate your needs, desires and boundaries to others.
Connection
Pleasure
I help individuals feel reconnected to themselves, and partners build a stronger, more genuine connection with each other. By learning how your nervous system responds to stress and intimacy, we dismantle the shame around mismatched desire and create a shared, judgment-free language.
Pleasure is not a high-pressure goal; it is about feeling safe and noticing the simple moments that bring you joy. We combine somatic tracking with anatomy education, removing the guesswork so you can build confidence to create pleasure in your daily life.
Choosing your Pathway
Intimacy shouldn't feel like a test. This space is designed to lower the pressure, strip away expectations, and help you return to genuine presence. Whether you are exploring solo or together, we find the pathways that feel safe and natural for your body.
Individual Pathway
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You want to drop out of your head and stop overthinking during intimacy.
You want to move away from numbness or autopilot into genuine physical feeling.
You are carrying pressure or anxiety around sex and need a safe space to work through it.
You notice you watch or judge yourself from the outside while intimacy is happening.
You want clear, body-positive, and practical information about anatomy and adult sexuality.
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You want to drop out of your head, stop overthinking, and return to your body during intimacy
You want to move away from numbness or autopilot into genuine physical feeling
You notice your libido has dropped, or you feel dependent on high-intensity stimulation for a quick physical release rather than a satisfying experience
You experience muted internal sensations, a disconnected physical release, or a lack of spontaneous arousal
You experience intense post-climax oversensitivity or physical discomfort and want to learn how to safely soothe your nervous system
You notice you watch or judge yourself from the outside while intimacy is happening
You feel like sex has become a routine, performance, or another task on your to-do list
You want clear, body-positive, practical information about anatomy and adult sexuality
You want to experience deep physical pleasure and explore what you like without carrying guilt or shame
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You want to drop out of your head, stop overthinking, and return to your body during intimacy
You want to move away from numbness or autopilot into genuine physical feeling
You notice your libido has dropped, or you experience anxiety around maintaining an erection
You experience a disconnected, purely mechanical physical release, premature ejaculation, or muted sensations
You notice you watch or judge your performance from the outside while intimacy is happening
You feel like sex has become a high-pressure routine, a test, or another task on your to-do list
You want clear, body-positive, practical information about anatomy and adult sexuality
You want to experience deep physical pleasure and explore your sexuality without carrying guilt or shame
Relational Pathway
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Break out of a shared intimacy routine and stop just going through the motions together
Navigate mismatched desire levels, learning to meet each other where you are without pressure
Understand the dynamic where stress blocks desire for one while intimacy feels like stress relief for the other
Explore practical somatic ways to co-regulate and soothe your nervous systems as a couple
Shift intimacy from a high-pressure chore on your shared to-do list into a space to connect
Move past the cycle of pursuit and withdrawal to build a new, shared language of presence
The Journey: How It Works
Select a time for your 30-minute Foundation Session ($50 NZD). To finalise your booking, you’ll simply need to read and accept the Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy.
Booking calendar automatically adjusts to your local time zone.We meet via Zoom to discuss your goals. I will complete your intake form with you during this session, ensuring we have a clear, shared understanding of your needs from the start.
Step 2: The Foundation SessionStep 1: Book & ConfirmStep 4: IntegrationStep 3: Ongoing PathwaysReceive your session recap and 'home-play' via email. This unique map includes practical tools and somatic exercises to help you integrate presence and pleasure into your daily life
Once we’ve established a fit, you choose the Individual Pathway (1:1) or Relational Pathway (2:1)to begin the deeper somatic work.
Meet Michaela
Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Sexologist & Founder of Desire Pathways
Kia ora, I’m Michaela Tutty. Ever since I was young, I have been fascinated by how we connect, how our bodies change, and how we navigate intimacy. It is this lifelong curiosity that drew me to psychology, sexology, and becoming a Certified Somatic Sex Coach and Sexologist. I founded Desire Pathways because I want people to have a safe space to be curious about what is going on in their sexuality.
Whether you choose individual coaching or come in for relational work, we use the five core somatic tools of breath, awareness, touch, sound, and movement to drop out of the head, lower the pressure, and return to the body. This is a supportive space where we slow down and explore what feels natural to you, helping you move past what you think you should want and step into what your body already knows. To ensure an ethical and supportive space for you, I participate in regular professional supervision.
BA in Psychology, Massey University
Registered Member of the Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australasia (SSEAA)
IICT Approved Somatic Sex Coach
Every coaching pathway begins here.
Before we start our work together, we begin with a Foundations Session. This is a 30-minute online conversation to ensure we are the right fit and to clarify what you want to achieve in our sessions.
Whether you are looking for individual or relational coaching, this initial meeting is where we establish consent, presence, and safety from the very beginning.
Session Fee: $50 NZD
The Credit: If we decide to move forward, this $50 is credited toward your first full session.
Format: A secure video link from the comfort of your own space.
Referrals & Self-Referrals
I work collaboratively with GPs, psychologists, and allied health professionals to support clients seeking guidance with sexual wellbeing, intimacy, and relational connection.
You do not need a medical professional to get started because individuals and couples are welcome to self-refer directly or book straight into a foundation session if you feel ready.
Sessions are online-only, fully clothed, structured, and completely client-led.
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