Somatic Sexology & Coaching Online Worldwide
Find your path back to presence, pleasure, and connection.
Somatic sex coaching for individuals and couples online. Move beyond performance and shift from your head back into your body to reclaim presence and pleasure in every season of life. Based in New Zealand, I support clients globally through online sessions and facilitate in-person events locally in Taupō.
A Reintroduction to Yourself
Whether you are navigating postpartum, menopause, or a significant shift in your identity and body, there is often a real need for reintroduction. Our bodies change, and the way we relate to them has to change, too. For many of us, we have spent years playing a role or simply going through the motions. This can leave us feeling stuck and disconnected from the skin we live in. This is a space to stop "performing" and start reclaiming pleasure as something that belongs to you.
How Somatic Sex Coaching Works
I don’t believe in a one-size-fits-all process. Our work is a blend of somatic exploration, education, and conversation. In our sessions, I may use anatomical models or diagrams to help you understand how your body actually works. We talk through your experiences to make sense of what you are noticing, and I introduce you to five somatic skills that act as a toolkit for us to explore together:
Breath
Awareness
Touch
Sound
Movement
These tools offer a different way to look at your experience. They aren't about doing it right. They provide a clear starting point for us to understand what is happening in your body and how we can move toward more pleasure and connection.
A collaborative Approach
Our work begins with a grounding practice to help you arrive and feel present. As we move through the session, I’ll invite you to stay curious about what your body is experiencing in the moment. I never assume I know what is going on for you; instead, I ask questions to help you share your own felt sense. We intentionally slow the pace right down to help you get out of your head and move into a more relaxed state. This focus on presence makes it possible to move away from overthinking and toward a genuine sense of connection and pleasure.
Meet Michaela
Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Sexologist & Founder of Desire Pathways
Kia ora, I’m Michaela, a Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Sexologist, and the founder of Desire Pathways. With a background in psychology and training in somatic sexology, I help individuals and couples get back into their bodies and find more confidence and pleasure in their sexual lives.
My work is built on three essential pillars: consent, presence, and pleasure. I work with those who are ready to stop going through the motions and move from their head back into their body. Using the five somatic skills of breath, awareness, touch, sound, and movement, I support you in identifying what your body is communicating. This isn't about performing. It is about slowing down, finding your presence, and rediscovering what it feels like to have ease in your own skin.
I am passionate about helping people understand how embodiment shapes our daily lives and relationships. I participate in regular professional supervision to ensure a safe, ethical, and professional practice for every client.
BA in Psychology, Massey University
Registered Member of the Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australasia (SSEAA)
IICT Approved Somatic Sex Coach
Choosing your Pathway
This work is designed for those ready to move beyond performance and back into presence. Whether you are coming to this alone or with a partner, we work together to find the tools that fit your specific experience.
Individual Pathway
A space for those navigating life transitions, reclaiming personal pleasure, or looking to move from "going through the motions" back into their own body.
Reconnect with your body and your desire. Moving from a sense of "autopilot" or numbness into genuine feeling.
Navigate transitions like menopause, postpartum, or changes in libido. Acknowledging that as your body changes, your relationship to pleasure must also evolve.
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Move through shame or anxiety
Work through the confusion and heavy emotions that can surround intimacy in a safe, non-judgmental, and guided space.
Increase confidence and self-awareness
Build a deeper understanding of your own responses so you can feel more self-assured and present in your sexual experiences.
Feel more present and embodied
Learn practical ways to stay "in" your body and move from a sense of "autopilot" back into genuine, felt connection.
Receive the sex education you missed
Fill in the gaps with the practical, body-positive information about your sexuality that you should have had in school.
Relational Pathway
A space for partners looking to move beyond the "roommate phase," expand their erotic connection, and build a new language of presence together.
Move past the "roommate phase" by establishing a shared somatic language. Finding a way to connect that feels genuine rather than performative or forced.
Navigate mismatched libido or changes in desire. Addressing the "gap" between partners with practical tools instead of pressure.
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Reconnect and rebuild closeness
Find your way back to each other when intimacy has faded, moving from a sense of distance into a more grounded, felt connection.
Communicate openly about needs and boundaries
Build a shared language to talk about desire and pleasure with ease, ensuring both of you feel heard and respected.
Explore your sexuality together
A safe, guided space to get curious about your erotic connection at your own pace, focusing on what feels right for both of you.
Strengthen your emotional and erotic bond
Move beyond the surface and use presence and awareness to deepen both your friendship and your physical connection.
In-Person Events & Experiences in Taupō
I bring Sex Ed for adults to your next gathering. While my coaching practice is exclusively online, I facilitate fun, meaningful group experiences locally in Taupō. I travel to your home, event space, or Airbnb within the region to lead private workshops.
Hens’ Parties & Bridal Showers: A sophisticated alternative focused on body confidence and pleasure.
Couples’ Date Nights: Practical, guided sessions to help partners move out of their heads and back into their bodies.
Embodied Consent Workshops: Specialised group sessions focused on choice and boundaries.
Every coaching pathway begins here.
Before we start our work together, we begin with a Foundations Session. This is a 30-minute online conversation to ensure we are the right fit and to clarify what you want to achieve in our sessions.
Whether you are looking for individual or relational coaching, this initial meeting is where we establish consent, presence, and safety from the very beginning.
Session Fee: $50 NZD
The Credit: If we decide to move forward, this $50 is credited toward your first full session.
Format: A secure video link from the comfort of your own space.
Professional Referrals
I work collaboratively with GPs, psychologists, and allied health professionals to support clients seeking guidance with sexual wellbeing, intimacy, and relational connection. Sessions are online-only, fully clothed, structured and client-led.
Visit my Referrals page.